Many moons ago, going solely on a hunch, I stumbled upon doing the dishes as a way of setting things right.
It was a magical bit of accidental reframing for me. Dishes were an especially loathed task growing up, for all sorts of reasons having to do with feminism and feeling trapped in a life and a house not of my choosing.
Ironing, on the other hand, was a quieting, calming task I chose. Like most of my favorite soothing things, it required just enough attention to disengage my brain from whatever it was currently sweating out, and not so much that I couldn’t have Brady Bunch reruns on in the background.
Sweeping Changes: Discovering the Joy of Zen in Everyday Tasks, helps reframe all kinds of potentially irritating chores into balm for the soul (not to mention actions that get the house nice and clean.) Author Gary Thorp, a lay-ordained monk in the Shunryu Suzuki Roshi tradition, explicates the dull to-dos of maintaining one’s life and space, the scrubbing of toilets, the preparation of meals, and yes, the sweeping of surfaces, in Buddhist terms: how we care for the things around us determines how we care for ourselves and the world around us.
If we approach a dirty sink, or carpet, or even (or especially) a toilet with loving kindness and our full attention, we improve our ability to approach the more complex challenges of life the same way. And if we go one level deeper, we start getting in our bones that the Buddha lives in everything: not just the clean sink underneath, but the dirty water that fills it. We honor the space walled off arbitrarily by the exterior of our home but not at the expense of the space outside of it, because we see that everything, the floor, the dust, the mites living in the dust, are all part of one, big, interconnected system.
I loved Thorp’s friendly, light, easygoing style so much, I probably read the book too fast. If you pick up your own copy (there are new hardcover and paperback copies available starting at $5.99 and $10.90, respectively, with abundant used copies for far less), I’d keep it by the bed or other (ahem) temporary reading station to dip into here and there, for inspiration. Maybe it’s different for zen cats, but us civilian kitties can get balled up in our Buddhist underwear pretty darn quick.
If you take nothing else from it, I’d suggest taking these two things: pay more attention to your tasks, and less to how perfectly you do them.
Easier on the surfaces and what lies beneath yours…
- Buy hardcover version of Sweeping Changes by Gary Thorp on Amazon
- Buy paperback version of Sweeping Changes by Gary Thorp on Amazon
UPDATE (8:51 am): In my rush to post, I neglected to mention that John E. Simpson‘s comment on a previous post originally pointed me to this wonderful book. I’m horrified, not only b/c I’m such a credit-where-credit-is-due apologist, but b/c I want to maximize the chances I’ll find other great book (and other) suggestions in the comments section. My apologies, John!
Yo! Disclosure! Links to the books in the post above are Amazon affiliate links. This means if you click on them and buy something, I receive an affiliate commission. Which I hope you do: it helps keep me in books to review. More on this disclosure stuff at publisher Michael Hyatt’s excellent blog, from whence I lifted (and smooshed around a little) this boilerplate text.